Have you ever heard of Rejection Therapy? I hadn't until I listened to a podcast with Jason Comely a few weeks ago. Jason was going through a rough patch in his life and was having a hard time coping with every day life. He barely wanted to leave his apartment let alone date, go on a job interview, or the like. So, in order to continue functioning in society, Jason played this game with himself called Rejection Therapy. Every day he would do something to face rejection - he would actually put himself into really uncomfortable situations just for the sake of reaching his rejection quota for the day. It might sound crazy at first but when you think about it, it is pretty empowering because...what do you have to lose? You can go to Jason's site (http://rejectiontherapy.com) and buy a set of cards that give you a rejection to embark on each day. For example, say 'hello' to 3 strangers in a grocery store. The number one rule is: you must be rejected by at least one person every single day.
But instead of buying the cards, I got creative (and thrifty!) and am playing my own game of rejection therapy. Not so much following any hard and fast rule but using the thought process to just put myself out there in different situations. Going to talk to a Swedish real estate broker? Walking into a random yoga studio and asking about potential jobs or volunteer opportunities? Going solo to an expat meet up? Just the simple awkwardness of having no idea what someone is saying and then responding in a different language just hoping they won't stare at you like you have gone mad? What is the worst that could happen? You got it - being rejected. If that fear instead becomes a goal well then, the fear just vanishes. It is a pretty interesting concept and has given me confidence in situations where I would have otherwise been squeamish. Try it -- go ahead and get rejected. It's really not so bad.
And now for a couple of photos from this beautiful city I love being rejected in...